Being the first to change.
Do I have the deep feeling of wanting to change? If I really have the feeling of wanting to transform then I will know what I have to do. If I wait for someone to change, I will be waiting forever. My duty is to have GOOD FEELINGS towards them. If I see the defects of others, I will definitely be affected. If I wait for others to change I will lose out because I will be wasting my time totally.